November 3,
Friday.
Hello, I created another schedule for the newsletter and I sincerely hope I keep up with this one.
This edition of the newsletter is going to be scattered but I am sure you would find the gems lying around.
Recap of my week;
I did not attend any lectures this week because of the gruesome crime involving a lecturer of mine. Just in brief, a lecturer of mine was assassinated by two young boys, a crime perpetrated by a 14-year-old girl. You can read the details on the internet. Because of this issue, many of my lectures were canceled for the week and I canceled the ones that weren't and just stayed home throughout the week.
podcast.
I also put up an episode on my podcast on Wednesday that discussed creating a better self-image. I usually do not let you guys know that I have a podcast here but I want to start promoting it so if you would love to listen to the episode, here is the link:
podcast link Enjoy.
I have also been quite productive than usual this week and I have been mesmerized by this transformation cos “who please”- only Nigerians get the joke.
My academic results also showed up after a long wait and it wasn't good so I rather not give any more information on that. We mueve.
Let me know how your week went in the comments section.
Now into the main issues of this edition. I could not keep up with writing only on a single topic this time around because of repetitions of words and sentences so, we have a couple of topics on this edition. They are:
Latitude- A new word I learned.
Discernment- Favorite word for some time now.
You sabotaged yourself and were lied to.
I was watching a reel on Instagram and when asked to give a piece of advice to the younger generation, she made mention of the word:
“LATITUDE”.
She said: “Know when to give people latitude. Know when someone deserves a second chance and when he or she does not".
Before then, the word-Latitude only came to my mind when mathematics was mentioned because I was taught that in secondary school. The line on the earth from the equator is zero degrees Celsius and towards the North and South Pole at 90 degrees Celsius. Far from the point though but I would love to write down my lesson.
I did pick up what she wanted me to learn. As one without really firm boundaries, because I want everyone to have me on their good book, I learned that sometimes, things people do are inexcusable and I want to draw a line and be firm about it because if I am not, they are just going to keep disrespecting me and I do not want that. In short, Boundaries are really important and even if your boundaries make other people uncomfortable, draw the line and give consequences of crossing it so that people respect it whether they want to or not.
“DISCERNMENT”.
This is not new at all. Why do I use the term “favorite word”? Let us go through the back story first. Another bible story. So three months ago, I read the bible book of proverbs and could not help but notice the word mentioned 18 times in that bible book alone. It gave me something to think about (call it discernment). Before then, I had read the book of Proverbs on the surface level and whenever the word is mentioned, proverbs always come to mind. I also used the word more times than even I can imagine because I mean I loved it.
Discernment just means using the thinking ability to distinguish right and wrong especially when it is not clearly stated which is which. It requires knowledge, wisdom, and understanding. Foolish people cannot be discerning because they go with the flow. Discernment entails that you ask thought-provoking questions to yourself regarding a particular situation before you get yourself involved. It was nice making this my favorite word at the moment. This word should be in everything you do.
“YOU SABOTAGED YOURSELF AND WERE LIED TO”.
Truth is, I am not going to give an in-depth explanation of why I said this because the next episode of my podcast next week Wednesday is going to discuss it but let me just let you guys know why I thought about it. As kids, we all wanted to grow up and become adults. We were not even patient, me included. The adults around us left a false impression about what adulthood was all about and guess what, we picked up on that lie. As time went on and we kept growing, we saw loopholes but we sabotaged ourselves, we did not want to accept reality.
Hello, I am two months into age twenty and it has not been funny. Adulthood is hitting hard. Many of you understand and have more experience than I do when it comes to this issue but we’ll spill in next week’s episode of the Let's Talk podcast titled: Things I wish I knew before I turned 20- struggles of adulthood. Anticipate.
With Love, Tabss.
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